You’ve been around the block a couple times and know it’s important to write customized messages to each person.
And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?
Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.
In my latest online experiment I used the name of wannafunk4me coupled with a sexual profile meant only 1 half decent positive reply out of over 60 mails. In short being too sexual on dating sites is a death wish. IMHO online is totally different from normal gaming. One of the responses I got is obviously some spam or scam.
She mailed me pics of herself with lots of cleavage.
It is an opportunity for a memorable first impression. Don’t’ try to put too-deep meaning into your mantras; the mantra should be a reflection of your personality, otherwise it will come across as unauthentic and contrived.
Headline word limits can also make things sound cheesy and cliché, so focus on using this space to make someone laugh or smile.
About the Author: Candace Wong Are you using technology to find love?
Feel like you are running out of men to date and frustrated by the non-committals but ready for a real relationship?
My username combines my first name and a nearby street.
The street name carries connotations (like Soho in NYC), and it reflects the sort of person I am, the type of interests I have, etc.
If I get back into online dating, I’ll probably try to come up with something more clever.